11/18/10

Desperation in Youth

When I was younger, I remember wanting to be in love and in relationship so badly that I put up with a lot of unloving and unkind behavior from boyfriends. It was very hurtful and I experienced a lot of pain. I'm assuming that most people have had similar experiences at some time. I don't feel that way or do that any more. I found that the more I love, enjoy, respect, and appreciate myself, the less I need to depend on someone else to make me feel good. AND I've discovered that I actually experience more love and healthier forms of love in my life now. I was desperate for love before and never felt I had it. Now I'm not desperate and feel I have more love than ever.

Have you had similar experiences? If you found a solution, what did you discover? What advice could you share with people who feel they have no love in their lives and they experience loneliness? 

 









2 comments:

  1. I've been desperate for love except instead of putting up with terrible relationships. I could never find someone who wanted to get into a relationship with me. I think that I wanted it so much that I scared people away. I was too much of a pleaser because I thought that was the way to make someone like me. Now I am coming to the realisation you gotta love yourself. Whilst that doesn't help me to get a relationship. I will have love from inside me.

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  2. HI Dib, Thank you for sharing your story and your insights! I am happy that you have realized that loving yourself is important! I believe that if you are happy and like yourself - people will be much more drawn to you. You're right - over pleasing and being desperate is not appealing to people. So being happy with yourself will most likely lead to a happier and healthier relationship!! Congratulations. But I also like that you will be happy just being with yourself - you're good company. Happy New Year!

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